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Readers Respond: What is the Most Frightening Aspect of COPD?

Responses: 185


Updated May 01, 2014

The Process of Dying

I don't know for sure that I have COPD yet, although one of the five doctors I've seen said I do. I'm not scared of dying, but the process with this scary disease. I have a granddaughter that will be born soon and I know that I will not get to enjoy a lot of time with her and see her grow up. I have two sons and a daughter-in-law and my mother who I love very much and I don't want them to have to see me suffer from this disease. God bless all you on here with COPD. May God give us some peace soon.
—Guest Charles

My Life

Im 48 and I've had COPD two years now. I lost my dad to it at 67 after helping nurse him. It was terrible. I know I will need that help in time and I don't want to be a burden to anyone. I don't want my girls/partner or grandchild to see me that way. It's like life repeating itself. My youngest daughter helped her grandad put his mask on at 4 now my granddaughter is 3 soon.
—Guest mandy s

That I did it to myself

40 years old and diagnosed. I can't blame anyone but myself. I knew smoking was bad but did it anyway for 20 years. Now I'm paying the price. I worry about my future, but have so many other health concerns this one just adds to them. I'm sorry for all of you that are suffering so badly, I see my grandma who has it worse suffer and talk to her frequently now to learn about it and how to live better.
—Guest Nicole 40

Fear of Dying

I've had COPD for about 3 years and my biggest fear is leaving my children & grandchildren behind. I'm not ready to die. I pray every day for God to give me more time with my family. There are things I want to do while I still can. I watched my father die from the same thing for 13 years. I miss him everyday and he's been dead 30 years. The worst feeling you will ever experience is not being able to breath.
—Guest lori

Afraid to Ask How Long I Have Left

I'm 45 and have COPD. My doctor told me I have the lungs of an 82 year old man. I also have a stress fracture in my foot which is not healing. I'm getting frightened but am to afraid to ask my GP how long I've got left?
—Guest elaine


I watched my Dad die of COPD and now my husband has it. Yes I agree with you all it is so tough for the victims and the caregivers. My Dad lived till 81 and never complained, I watch my husband try so hard to have a normal life but as you well know the trips to the hospital are in the future with his stage 4 COPD. I can only imagine what it like not to breathe normal but watching my Dad and husband through the years battle this awful disease I found their determination to do something each day positive has helped them mentally and physically. My Dad lived 40 years with it and now he has become a role model for my husband. Exercise,find a hobby,reach out to others, find a support group. My Dad started cooking, made a model train track with cars, did cross stitch, just kept himself busy. God Bless you all.
—Guest Deb

I'm Afraid For My Mom

My mom has COPD. She is 62. It's depressing to see her like this. I've asked her for the last 30 years to not smoke but she would just get mad and usually start yelling or cussing at me. I'm 44 and don't want her to die. She is scared too. I love her very much.
—Guest James

My Mother's Death

My names Amanda and I'm only 16 years old. My mom has just recently been diagnosed with COPD. I don't think I go a day without thinking ill be at my moms funeral within a year. I'm so scared for my mom. I have all the faith in the world in my mom but she hasn't quit smoking. She's 45 years old and has been smoking since she was 15. My mom is my best friend, I love her more than anyone in this entire world. Nothing has ever gone right in my life. It's like when a bad thing happens, something worse happens. I know God has a plan for me and my family I just hope it involves my mom passing happy at an old age of natural causes. My grandmother died from lung cancer and my mom has just gotten her lung mass removed which was also cancer. I guess the only thing I can do is try to help her in every way possible and pray.
—Guest Amanda C

Scared to Death My Mother is Dying

My mom was diagnosed with COPD 2 years ago. Then she had trouble breathing but could still do things. Now she doesn't even barely leave her room. She can barely move around and that's with her oxygen all the time. She sleeps a lot now. Is she dying?? Someone help me understand please I'm so scared.
—Guest whymymom

Dying Before My Mother

I'm 46 live in Stevensville mt and was diagnosed the day after Memorial Day 2013. My 67 year old mom saw it all. She was very scared. My fear is dying before her. She already lost one child. I hope she doesn't lose me too.
—Guest Tammy


My poor husband had a serious flareup. His blood gasses were sky high, his oxygen low. The hospital has pulled him out of danger. I am very grateful to still have my soul mate. We left it a bit late to seek advice. Get help early if you feel unwell. God bless us all. Raine.x.
—Guest raine

Scared of my mum dying

I'm afraid my mums going to die. She's 43 and just been diagnosed with COPD. I don't want to lose her, she's my best friend. I love her and I can't live without her. Someone help?
—Guest Sacha

Breathlessness is Terrifying

The breathlessness is terrifying and I am scared of it killing me. While I am only 55, I can't enjoy what I used to and I miss that so much. I can't chase my grandchildren for fun, or even laugh too hard, please everyone who smokes give up NOW for your own,and families sake, this illness is exausting and scary
—Guest Chrissie

Days When Breathing is Near Impossible

I have had asthma all of my life, (almost 70 years). I have never smoked, but have lived with hard core smokers all of my life. In fact, my parents, and my older brother died with lung complications, emphysema and lung cancer.About 7 years ago I was diagnosed with COPD. I now take medicine for both asthma and COPD. I am very independant and hate that there are days when breathing is near impossible. How do I convince people that their smoking is killing me, albeit slowly it is no less painful.
—Guest Sandi

Drowning and a 3rd Heart Attack

I've had COPD for 4 years now, along with other conditions and constant pain. I know I should quit smoking but I'm finding it extremely hard. With 2 in this household who smoke and 2 grandchildren who smoke, it is very difficult. My greatest fear is "drowning" and a 3rd heart attack. How do I quit smoking, when it is all around me?
—Guest susie

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